A proven process to shift your patterns

At the center is you, created by the same stuff that makes up the entire Universe.

In other words, you started at Oneness.

You came with your own unique gifts.

Before you were born, your body and mind were being shaped by the sensations you felt inside your mother's womb.

They shaped your nervous system through every interaction, look, and silence.

You picked up how they handled life.

If they lived in survival mode, so did you.

Their relationship was the first model of love you saw, the blueprint for your own.

From it you learned how power is held, how affection is shown, how conflict is handled.

If there was chaos or abuse at home, you are more likely to recreate it simply because it's familiar.

To hold on to your parents' love and acceptance, you learned to play a role, pre-defined by your gender and birth order among your siblings.

The eldest daughter often becomes the emotional caretaker, while the eldest son is pulled into being the mother's confidant or the family heir.

You keep playing these roles out of a fear, that if you stopped playing your part, you will lose the love and respect you earned.

This is evidence that the home lacks emotional safety.

Secure attachment means you can be fully yourself, without the fear of judgement or disconnection.

Insecure attachment means a fear of being yourself.

The whole work is moving from insecure to secure, from patterns to presence.

If you believe that love must be earned (because this is what you learned in childhood), you will choose a partner that you have to earn love from.

And you will go on to raise children who also believe they have to earn your love.

Your patterns do not remain within; they emanate outwards into the world you create.

The partners you choose, the home you build, the children you raise, the way you show up in communities.