Key takeaways:

1. Your attachment system is biological: you are hardwired for survival and connection.
2. Just because you are an adult now, does not mean your childhood experiences aren’t still shaping the way you handle intimate relationships now. 
3. Connection isn’t automatic but it comes from finding yourself in safe spaces when we are babies and how our parents support us early on. 
4. Having a secure attachment style comes from knowing your needs are going to be met and you are going to be safe.
5. Insecure attachment styles come from feeling unsafe, not being able to have our needs met, and the fear of being alone and unsupportive.
6. Nurture can trump nature when you find yourself in a supportive environment as a child even if your mothers pregnancy might have been stressful or unsupportive for her.